害怕晚上，
害怕下班后到医院去。
那里环境还不错。
但不知道能为父亲做什么。
虽然，哪里有许多人情况比父亲还糟。
害怕停下来。
害怕思绪乱窜。
过年那几天，害怕呆呆呆在家。
也不知道和“亲戚”说什么。
只提醒自己注意当下，
其他的别想。
回到了学校，
好像是我的救命绳，
逗孩子笑，很开心。
看孩子努力，很欣慰。
很期待每个星期四和篮球队的孩子打十五分钟的球。
我怕，去医院，我也有点怕回家。
今天就在课室外，改簿子，
改了就把簿子分类，放在课室。
其实有更快的方法的。
但是，不知道为什么，知道忙完了，
就要到医院去了，
所以很不积极。
只想留在学校。
看看股票，也闷。
听歌听着听着，
会无厘头地想哭 。
买点什么好，让他止痒。
本来以为都习惯了。
以为没感觉了。
怎么都回来了。
突然想哭。
突然想起以前当义工时，
也是推着老人到公园走走。
说说笑笑。
昨天还教我的学生尽情哭。
把不满都抒发。
我原来也会哭。
本来以为无悔，没什么好哭的。
原来有感觉是这种感觉。
到底是在同情他，还是同情自己。
我回到了我们的家。
我成长的家。
好像想起你还健康时，
拉着你到外头吃饭的情景。
其实，我知道你很累，
但是不想你一直睡。
走过餐桌，你的药还在药盒。
有时怪你为什么没吃药。
也想起你说肚子饿，
半夜起来橇饼干罐。
现在你在医院，
什么食物都说饱，吃不下。
精神不算太坏，
但是不知道能和你说什么。
就只能按按你的脚，希望你舒服一点。
你在医院三周了，
房子空了三周，
那天回去，赫然发现屋外的植物都快枯死了。
我从很阴郁，到没感觉，
这就是他们说的麻木吧。
空空的，很整齐。
空空的，很平静，不像你刚入院前，
忙得头昏脑胀。
我知道你想快点回家，
不过自私的我，在工人还没来前，
器材还没买前，还是挺赞成医院留着你的。
空屋空屋，过年前能热闹起来吗？
2018 is a difficult year for me. I will just talk about work in this post.
This is the 4th year in my appointment. It is a difficult year as I have to manage many staff having issues at work. While I have genuinely tried to help all, I think only 2 turn out well.
This is the worst year in terms of results, I think most of my staff have put in their best. To be honest, I do think with such bad records and having so many years into the job, I really need to take a hard look at my approach and admits something is wrong.
I am not quite sure what is wrong, but while I have tried to change approach, the change in approach is in direct conflict with my beliefs. It's fine if readers think I am a sore loser or I am eating sour grapes, but I decided to step aside for someone with a different approach. I am really looking forward to 1 year transistion period where I will slowly hand over my work. I told my boss about my intentions and she supported my choice. The only spanner is she is leaving soon, but she told me she will let the new boss know.
Frankly speaking, this year high is when I think I gain the trust of a staff who had wanted to leave and when unable to, is feeling very sour.
The low point is, for all my efforts to reach out to my people, which is very exhausting, I was told and hinted that I indulge my officers and I have built a culture that is not productive. I really felt insulted when I heard this, but I realise I not too sure if I know of alternative way. That is also an important reason that I think I should step aside.
This year, I really give all my best to my pupils in order for them to do well in PSLE. This year is the first time I think I balance hoping they do well so I do well in my KPI and also genuinely hope they progress well in exam. For my part, my pupils did better than I expected. While it might not be exceed expectations, I think it is very good. For all the pupils that would in normal circumstances be streamed to take Foundation level of the subject, i manage to turn around most. In fact, many manage a B, more than a pass.
The nights listening to the oral, marking their assignments seem worth it. But, in my boss eyes, I done all these at the expense of my staff and department needs.
I really agree with her assessment, and can only come to the conclusion that I have a capacity problem. I cannot help my pupils and my teachers at the same time. When given a choice, I choose pupils, and my class pupils.
It's quite embrassing, but I am quite happy that my class pupils do well so much that the the level do not do well (the other spectrum of A, my job is to help the weakest pupils pass) , it did not bother me as much. As a friend jest, I need to have 大爱，I am responsible for more than just my pupils. Indeed, my job scope require me to monitor the whole school pupils performance in my subject area. This is another marker that I am a misfit in my job.
In all honesty, I would rather go out at a high, and not because of realisation that I do a bad job. But I guess no point killing my passion for teaching for doing something that I don't like. I know stepping aside with have adverse effect on my career progression. I am glad my wife supported my decision. I am mindful that after I step aside, it might be a slippery slope down, but I will take what come a step at a time. Right now, I will just focus on doing the job as best as I could for another year before I move on with or without my superiors blessing. I am 40 next year. Mid life crisis start early for me.
Is the holidays. I usually get very sick when the term break is here.
The funny thing is, beyond the obvious physical discomfort, I actually feel more at peace. I could have guilt free and care free rest, and the people around me are more understanding. When I fell asleep with newspapers around the room, my wife just picked them up without nagging. When I slept and slept, it didnt feel like I am wasting time.
When I brought my dad out for dinner, I had the most relaxing moments with my dad, soaking in the christmas atmosphere at the restaurant. Even when something unpleasant happened that required a lot of cleaning up, I felt my frustration is lower than usual.
I made me wonder seriously about 2 things.
1) Sickness could be managed suffering and it dun have to be all dark and painful, especially with loved ones around.
2) I should really get a change in scope in my job. Not sure how fast and how much things will change with a new boss, but I am very sure now, my job is eating too much of me. The non pupils related part of the work is toxic to me. One man poison could be one man meat. I am not judging,just felt its time to move on if a circle can't fit a square hole.
Anyway, there are counters in stock market is not in good health.
The Lippo Family of Reit is one. Anyone interested in getting FR, I would advise to wait for annoucement of acquisition aka dumping and rights issue.
Lippo mall dumping is always done quite ruthlessly, except for the Kemang Village deal (IIRC the name of the integrated development). FR might fare better, but look at the deal when it appear, there is no need to rush to buy.
Keppel Infrastructure Trust is always trading at above 8 percent yield with another yield Accretive purchase in the pipeline ( I am looking at the discount factor) of rights to buy.
My style of investment, as someone from IN said, is turnaround value play or cyclical play. I am not too sure if it is a accurate assessment, but I am not too concerned about the name.
It Seems just like managed sickness too. It doesn't has to be pure suffering. TheIR could be some peace and panadol of owning it as we wait for the recovery.
Companies that are sick which are in my radar for acquisition or accumulation include:
1) APPT
2) SIA engineering
3) QAF
4) FR
5) KIT
6) Singpost
7) Sembcorp
As with all sickness, some has already taken medicine (aka APPT), some have been resting for a while, some has been hit by the seasonal flu. They might not recover to the best of health just like all illness weaken our body.
Please take note that being around with sick people increased the probability of u falling sick, and where precautions aka risk management ia possible, it is not something u might want to do given a choice.
I just feel that I wouldn't use my sickness as a excuse for absence of caregiving since the doctor just say be careful and wear a mask.
My break, if it has to be given via a sickness, so be it.
