Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Random thoughts: A tribute to my Father, Happy Father's Day

Had been a long time since I spend the whole day with him. Although we spend the afternoon napping LOL. In fact, I cannot remember the last time we went out together, excluding those short dinner sessions. In fact, searching my whole mermory, there is not really quality time like today, where we stroll along river safari and had a good lunch chatting. My childhood memories include a few movie sessions, 1 Thailand trip, and were mostly the time I spent with him manning our Prawn Noodles Hawker Stall. I am closer to him than to my mum, and today again is one of those days we had quality conversation. 

My father taught me well, without teaching me. He told me that we need to be trustworthy, and if we say we will be home by 6, we will be home by 6. If we promise to meet someone, we must meet someone. 

The rest, were captured rather than taught. Working hard, enduring hardship.

A few things set me thinking again, after today lunch session.

He told me, he enjoyed the Swensen meal, and he like me bringing him to taste these 西餐,which he never tried before. We were early when we finished our walk at river safari, and I ask him to tell me what he like to eat. He told me to bring him to taste something he never tried before. LOL, 童心intact, still so adventurous. He was telling me although he didn't get the names right, that he like the Subway bread too, but didn't really like the Mexican cafe ( I can't remember the name too) 

He was telling me that he wanted to eat a 10 cents noodles so badly that he ate 霸王餐(eat without paying) when the owner is not looking. So sad, and here I am craving for comfort food, complaining about my hectic work. He told me to work hard when young, and I told him I am working hard to the point of missing lunch regularly. He smiled.

He told me because of our allowances, he get by every month and spending slightly less than 100 in 4D. He still
Managed to save a couple of hundreds a month. It is not in him to spend everything.

I am quite clear about his finances. He has less than 40k in savings, and survived mainly on our allowance. When my mum falls sick, he had on numerous times ask if it is necessary to take less money from me. I told him I am really screwed if I have to cut down on his allowance. 

So, it is possible to retired with about 800 In singapore, and he paid for the utilities etc. 

I am so worried about my finances when I have so much more. Simply because I live more "comfortably". I have also more savings. At the end of the day, perhaps I should not worried about reaching FI, but having little needs at old age. 

I hope I can be like him when I am old. Generally passionate about living, simple and carefree. He is not at the pink of health, with the weak legs that goes along with old age, and also kidney weakness. 

Happy Father's Day. 


15 comments:

  1. Good article. Simple yet powerful.
    父母债,我们这一生是还不完的。有孝心最总要。

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    1. Hi Anon, thanks for dropping a comment. Indeed, it's easy to forget our parents' needs especially if they are "quiet".

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  2. happy father day to you and uncle wow.

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    1. Thanks Yeh!

      At first thought the uncle is me. LOL.

      U managed to contact HuiWen?

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    2. Haha. Yes. But i also contacted another vendor.
      Anyway thanks for your help.

      Btw we about same age range. Can't call you uncle la.

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  3. 今朝有酒今朝醉!

    I'm bad company ;)

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  4. You're investing your time in the right places. Well done!

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    1. Thanks Lizardo,

      Ashamed to say, it is a nibble, never was a big investment.

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  5. Hi SI
    thanks for sharing u thoughts.
    u unpacked all ur portfolio already?
    Happy fathers day!

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  6. Hi SI
    thanks for sharing u thoughts.
    u unpacked all ur portfolio already?
    Happy fathers day!

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    1. Hi Paul! Happy Father's Day to u too!!
      Er.. Unpacked means?? Selling??

      I sold about half of the portfolio...

      Might be collecting at various points ... MARKET is not correcting though. So might not have a chance...

      I will be patient.

      How about u?

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  7. My portfolio remains much the same.
    sold all my sats to lock in profit after the run up n bot plife to increase cash flow.
    waiting for my tan chong dividends..shd be in within the next 1 week.
    really a boring portfolio...
    Cheers!

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  8. My portfolio remains much the same.
    sold all my sats to lock in profit after the run up n bot plife to increase cash flow.
    waiting for my tan chong dividends..shd be in within the next 1 week.
    really a boring portfolio...
    Cheers!

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    1. Hmm Paul,

      Boring ?? Your portolio seems damn exciting for me. Lol

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