Caught myself ...
I realise I need a lot of affirmations in my work. Pupils' feedback, parents' appreciation, peers or bosses' praises.
In the earlier part of my career, I had a very nuturing boss, I was the golden boy at work, I had all of them above in abundance. Looking back objectively, I am sure I dun really deserve all those.
Perhaps, I am used to it. So when I am transferred to another school, the sudden cold turkey treatment gave me a shock.
Today, I realise all these affirmations depend a lot on the giver as much as the receivers.
Its not rocket science, but looking back, I receive affirmations and appreciations from parents who are generous with them, and are not struggling with work. I mean everyone struggle at work, but I meant those who literally faced some hardship. They already struggle to care for themselves and their charge, how can I expect affirmation from them. It should be the other way round, Me assuring them that their child will progress fine.
How about kids. In my previous school, due to their upbringing, kids are a lot more articulate.
I realISE as a child, I do appreciate a lot of teachers but I never show it.
Work, I have a quiet confidence of where I stand now. I know I am somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. Peers and boss recognition are no longer that important. Just likeminded workerS are all that is needed.
This article, is a reminder for myself, to stop looking for affirmation, although I realise I crave a lot for it. LOL.
For those who are helping others and dun feel appreciated. They know, u know, god knows, words are cheap, continue with your good deeds.