My concept of "Right" and "wrong" is always evolving.
I used to self-righteous when I was a teenager, then I saw different perspectives such as time, place, intention and stand etc, I felt it is a world of grey.
It seldom bothers me anymore, what wrongs other do unless it very badly affect me, which seldom happens. It should not anyway, for example, if u say you have chosen the "wrong" wife, then it would really badly affect a person, but how can that be? In such a case, like a failed marriage, I would have to bear big responsibilities too, it would be wrong to have a "victim" mentality. In "Victim" mentality, we ceded control and responsibility to external factors.
However, it is possible to be a "perpetrator". I now understand the phrase "when u own the bank 1 million, it's your problem, but when u owned the bank 10 billion, it's a bank problem" There is indeed the choice of "lesser evil" after balancing all trade-offs, and decide a "wrong" affect less people, then "correcting" it does.
I am giving myself an excuse to do wrong, so just excuse me.