Thursday, March 10, 2016

随心笔:忙着生活,忘了生活

那天,中国来的一个同事对我说,在新加坡,有点不一样。看他一脸想说说不清的表情,我说:“压力?”
“不是”
“空虚”
“不是,这么说吧,现在在老家的那些跟我同辈的朋友,即便挣得比我少,即便没有车,没有房,但是生活好,下了班一起聊天喝酒。”
“噢,忙着生活,却又忘了生活。”
“大概就有这样的意思。”
我想了一会,让我想起网上的一个朋友,新加坡休闲男,或者醉生梦死男。我对他说:“挣够钱了,回老家,过得简单些,我想你很快也行。”

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这对话,在我脑海里转了好几圈。今天,我和一群同事聊天,我说:“那天我们说到,在新加坡忙得忘了生活。我想,要过得好,我们的乐子肯定要从忙里找。”
“对,要看开一些”
“要苦中作乐”
我的几个同事这样回答。我的心里纳闷啊,这不是我的意思,我补充:“除了考试和面对目标压力,教师不乐吗?我好喜欢。”他们笑了笑。“杂务太多了。”
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我这个新加坡上班族奴才,今天是教课的最后一天,学生明天参加运动会后就放假。今天,我带他们到图书馆,先找了一些书,读了后,觉得好感动。然后介绍给学生。学生抢着要那些书,看了真满足。同学们聚了过来,有人放了个屁,我开了个玩笑,同学们笑翻了。我心里也乐。我老婆以前听我说话也笑翻了。

现在...唉 

要多看些书,多点搞笑点子。

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同学们在周记里,常常说功课多,学习压力大,没时间。

何苦?

有个学生对我说她想要多点考试练习。我说好,晚些印给她。

印了两年的考题,随口问:“谁也要?不要没关系,额外作业,如果要,要好好做。”

三分之二的人举手!!

何苦为难自己,为难老师?

好吧,你奋斗,我奋斗。

一个没要的同学问另一个同学:“你要来干嘛?”

没有得意的回答-因为我行
没有斗志高昂的-因为我要进步

只有一脸难色,不知怎么回答。

唉,你何苦为难自己?唉。大人何尝不要一样,自己为难自己,别人有的,明知得到了不会快乐,但是要了再说。

别怕忙,但别瞎忙嘞


11 comments:

  1. Mike
    I am admitted again
    This time round I more chill and relaxed. Have been in hospital 3 days. Admitted my hometown hospital. No need worry medical fee.

    Well. Now recovering well.

    一切都是假想。身体健康,家人安康,快乐就是幸福。

    这几个月身体不好的关系,很有感触

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    1. Hi Yeh

      Wishing you a speedy recovery.

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    2. Thanks everyone for the well wishes.
      Recovering well. But the problem now is what causes me to keep losing blood in these 3 months and it badly affects my kidney.

      Still no clues about it.

      Anyway I am recovering well. Everything as per normal.

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    3. Yeh, didn't know if I mentioned before my mum cancer might have spread to the lungs and my dad had a bad fall.

      Looking at them, I think I know what you mean when u say 感触良多,好好活着;我们都会老,都会病。早晚而已。

      身体病了,心别病。开心就好,不能开心,至少释怀。

      恭喜身体又恢复了

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    4. Yes. Thank you.
      This time round I more to accept anything bad or good about my condition . Not so worried as last time. Good or bad. I also can't do anything. Except eat well and sleep well.

      Well. Can't discharge yet although I am fine now. But need to investigate the cause. Super sianz in hospital. Eat. Sleep. Eat sleep.

      Soon will be a fat pig

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    5. Aiyo. Eating is a blessing.
      Just dun eat too much. How good can hospital food be anyway ...lol

      Chill. Good time to exercise the mind

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  2. Hi SI,

    Good post.

    I'm always working..7 days a week. If I don't find joy in my work, then I'll always be lamenting why I'm working so hard, why don't I have days off etc etc. I think you're right. The joy and happiness we feel mustn't be found outside of work. It must be found inside our daily routines. If we manage to do so, even when we're working all day long doing the things pple normally considered as 'work', we will still be happy. That's finding joy in our work.

    I also have experience like the extra worksheet that you have. Sometimes when students ask for more, I tell them that if I give them, they better do it. Don't waste my effort and my paper. I'll be secretly happy that they said ok. It shows that they are not doing the work for the sake of doing. They really see the point of doing so or they want to improve further.

    For such students, if they go one mile ahead, i'll walk 2 miles with them. Such is the little pleasures in our line of work ;)

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    1. LP
      I totally enjoyed today sports day. Last year I didn't get this. This year I finally got pupils waving at me and giving me a big smile. Makes my day, even the pupil whom I thought must have hate me give me a big smile and greet me as I walk past

      Never mind the stupid 2 hours writing minutes of meeting


      I brought my dad to see TcM. Doc says condition hard to improve. Sianz ... I find the most joy in my work ... 生老病死,at least In my line I see the lively and yet to be dust young (生)

      I dun scare work ... I fear my work give no results. I fear not meeting sales target and worse I fear even more pupils giving up

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  3. Sillyinvestor,

    不是苦中作乐,而是忙里偷闲 ;)

    每一个人的心,都有一个洞。

    要把洞填好,先把心安好。

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    1. 新加坡休闲男,

      非也,不偷闲。
      自得其乐

      :)

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