Random Thoughts: Fairness

Recently the above words resonate with me a lot. I do not see it as a whin about the world being the "lion" and hence it is survival of the fittest, rather it is about a choice, a choice that we make and hence, we live with it.

We have been taught that our parents take care of us, hence we take care of them. Work hard and study hard, and we will get the food of our labour.

The truth, I guess, is there are plenty of exceptions.

The reverse is true too, Mother Nature has given us almost everything, i.e. resources, fresh air etc, but what have we give back to Mother Nature?

It is about the choice of a process.

Recently, I read up a bit about Karl Marx's ideas about emancipation, and that there is a difference between political emancipation and human emancipation. I guess the romantic vision of human emancipation where the ideas of communion and fellowship is so ingrained in us that people need not institutional rights to protect us, is akin to thinking that lions will not harm us, if we do not harm them.

It is human nature to expect a certain result from a certain efforts. However, as a teacher, I knew firsthand that the threshold of "efforts" is arbitrary, and how much efforts one put in, is often seen in one's own perspective. I seldom hear comments like "I have already done my utmost best" from pupils in the past, but I hear it quite often now. (i.e. Pupils are really more articulate nowadays). From the vintage point of a teacher over years, I have seen how some pupils work really hard without complaints and how some think a little efforts exerted is killing them. Sometimes I just have to reply very blankly that "your best is simply just not enough"

Even if efforts measured by hours are the same, how effective the hours are spent differs, but I would like to point out that it is already very difficult to get some to put in the hours. 

The faster we recognize our choices, and accept the possibilities of our choices, the earlier we discard "complaints" and reduce some of the instinctive negative understanding of our world (Some say is survival instinct)

I might be dealt with some lousy cards in life, and I am taking the opportunity to think and plan for my next steps if the worst happens. I guess I would feel really unhappy if the worst happens, but at the same time, I believed I will pick myself and challenge myself to explore new horizons. 

 

Random thoughts: Academic and sporting performance

I have faced disappointment in both areas, as a participant and also as a teacher/coach.

We tend to give too much hope to good performance and forget that consistency is the most important.

It is useless to be able to spike, serve well during training and let fear takes over in a match. When we can do very well in some questions, doesn't mean we can answer all similar questions.

In the end, the process of refining how I coach/ teach, becomes more meaningful and motivating than the final results.

My players trained hard but didn't get the results, my pupils were lazy and kept telling me they are stressed and have too much work. 

Effort does not gives u results, it however will likely give u progress.

Let hope those who passes me fear no hardship and progess in life.

随心笔：枷锁

看不见的枷锁，套在心上。

想着以前，害怕改变。

即便有人把我推了出去，

我可能还是看着之前的框框。

我在想：现在的生活比以前好吗？

什么叫好呢？

其实，不同，有什么关系。

何必放不下过去。

不同的节奏，不同的生活，

会给周围的人带来困扰，但是，

不要再犯同样的错误了。

不要再和过去比较了，

我珍惜当下的每一秒，我过得很满足。

我不需要和以前一样，

也许日子会穷一点，

也许，生活没那么写意，

也许，相处的时间少了。

但是，这是并不是最重要的。

解开枷锁，认真去拥抱不同吧。

不同的感触，不同的困难。

心里的宇宙，不要让它小的像沙粒。

走了一圈，或许回到原点，

或许倒退了。

但是，走着，就是活着，

走着，感受着向前迈进吧。

也许，别人走得很高，走得很远。

我就试试，走一下不同的路。

放下，枷锁。

如果推了出来，就潇洒地走，不要回头。

不同，是我的脑筋在玩游戏。