I said "I" is an accumulation of our experinces and how these experiences affected us. Since no one experince the same thing, all of us are unqiue.
As I aged, I believed we are the filter of our experinces. And that filter to a large extend is our values and moral beliefs
This filter is constantly changing. Perhaps the core do not change much, but many changes a lot. Ask yourself honestly is your beliefs in your work the same as 10 years ago?
If the answer is yes, go on and ask if u have the same values on life, family and wife or money?
We are constantly bombarded with experinces, some routine while others more mentally or emotionally or spiritually more stimulating or disturbing.
The key in being at peace with yourself is neither shutting off the bombardment, nor sticking to your values like a stick in the mud.
We are not an island. We felt disturbed, we are affected, but when an decision need to be made, it will be based on my filter, not matter how volatile it might be.
It will not be based on how my boss think (her filter) or my wife felt(her filter). They in my interactions with them already play a part in shaping my filter, there is no need to "shut off" anything.
Wonder why we say we are "lost"? Because we thought the filter is some cast in stone apparatus or we could
Not even see out filter?
The filter is important because it helped one made decision and live with that decision with peace.
And if an decision made is not at peace,
U know it is under bombardment again. There is no need to resist. It is simply telling your core, is being "transformed" at the perimeters. Relaxed. I am I. Not one live like me and I live like no one